Cell phone in every hand.

BLOG #9

Cell phones.
Yes! 'Cells' these are; in which we have been trapped. In this era of modernity, we find ourselves locked in these self created cages. Isolated entirely from the world in real; the world in existence.
I'm not against the use of any electronic device. I appreciate their phenomenal capabilities downright; I myself is pursuing engineering in electronics and communication! These devices have blessed us by letting us do almost anything that hits our mind, within few milliseconds. It's a wonder. A revolutionary time. The terms are getting more and more dynamic. With terms, my gesture is of human behaviour, social interactions, relations and their parameters.
The utmost irony lies in the term 'social media'. This word forces me to rethink what being social is! Is it to disconnect socially and connect with nothing but objects! Hurray! We are in a process of generating an entire species of robots. These robots interfacing with electronic devices in the most skillful of ways.
Nevertheless, the so called internet, phones, tablets have widely alleviated myriads of our problems; but have paved way for far more and severe issues. This powerful technology has crippled us and have typically bruised our identities. The more we connect virtually, the more we disconnect in real. Our lives are being shaped into cages, notwithstanding our total oblivion. We aren't unable to speak even a few lines while confronting a person with whom we'd text and chat for hours! The situation is so worse that if I wanna talk to anyone who is sitting beside me, it's highly probable that he is engulfed in talking to someone else virtually, and I get a cold or even no response. If I need to convey anything to him/her, I'd get faster response on a chatting app! You can get the proof anywhere anytime. While crossing roads, while being in a bus, while being in a group; you can easily find 4 out of every 5 persons' head tilted down and eyes glued to some illuminant screen. Something is seriously wrong, isn't it? Humanity is in the verge of extinction and robots are soon to replace them.
I agree the technology has done wonders and will keep doing so. All that is to be done is, we must not hand over the control from us to these pieces of objects. Efficient use is what is the need of the hour. Else our hearts will get narrower, minds broader, and bodies will just be bodies. Awaken. Listen to your soul. It wants to dance in the rain, talk endlessly, run in the ground, sing in the shower or as simple as talking to the person beside you. Do all that you love, love all that you do. Revive your lost interests. After all, plugging earphones is the only hobby left with 90% of the persons.

In the moments of rest, of silences; in which your first impulse is checking your cell phones; mull rather on your wishes. Just begin doing it. Let the cell phone be your need, not your desire. I might sound big, being small, but try this for "21 days" (the magic number which develops any new habit in any person). You'll feel utterly refreshed and literally free out of the bonds of these prisons and bring life into your lives.

P.S.: Do respond, if you find me right to the least.

Destiny: The Game Changer

BLOG #8

Life has a wonderful way of surprising us. Each time we feel that things are all in place, something drastic happens! A sudden change! A totally unexpected one. Might it be for the good, or bad; but would definitely affect you in the time that follows.

While you feel gloomy about something, there strikes some zeal engulfed incidences from nowhere and make you feel elated. Just the similar way, while everything seems to be absolutely fine and you have plans set for things to show up, life knocks you down and drives you upon the wall just to prove you absolutely wrong. The word 'destiny' or rather 'an invisible captain of the anchor of the ship of our lives' always leaves me dazed. A fraction of humans also address it as 'God'! This latent power keeps a watch on your way of things, of people, and evolves a way absolutely different and mocks at you! It is the most cunning power ever. The smartest and the wickedest at the same time!

So now, I've almost stopped anticipating things. 'Cause there are always huge contradictions! I better, just pursue the tasks and acts of living, sit on my sofa of brain as a spectator, let destiny play it's tricks and watch the resulting outcomes!
The clutch is not under your hands. Accept it. You can although guide the captain, but ultimately, the control is never yours!
Fascinating it is. You must also try it sometime. You'll feel less burdened for you'll have no worries about the results. But certainly the path to follow is your part of the game. And more or less, it's closely linked with the output. So play it well my friend; and be prepared, for the surprise packets that destiny has in store for you.

It will turn out eventually, that you are living absolutely worry less!
And I guess, this proves the relevance of this perception.

P.S.: Dear readers, I would love to know your views. :)
Do share if you like and agree.

Dealing with losses

BLOG #7

Loss: emotional, physical, economical, biological,,,,, the list is long. As many gains, as many losses. It is a natural phenomenon, that what is gained has to be lost, now or later. Nothing stays forever. Everything and everyone is transient.

But the question that arises is, while travelling our journeys, we stick to certain things, certain people, certain places, certain habits. So how to move on, when these are gone? All we are left with, are the memories. And more or less, agonies as well!  'Cause realisation of any loss is the cause of pain. I was struck with this thought in the movie 'The Fault In Our Stars'; it had a dialogue: 'Pain demands to be felt'. Woh! These words are ocean in a pot!

Yet life goes on. We have to live with smile on our faces and peace in our hearts. But how? So here my friend, lies the art. Art of how to stay calm even in all the times of opposing circumstances. Our smile ought not be fake, but the peace and content, must gleam in our eyes. This can be accomplished only by acceptance. Acceptance of the truth, no regrets; since what is over is over. You cannot retrieve the lost. You'll no doubt remember the lost, but don't let it accompany with it, the pain. Rather remember things positively. And work forward to attain larger goals, farther aims. 'Cause what's gone is gone. Weeping about it will only help you with more loss. No one has ever achieved a thing by keep moaning about the gone. Instead, learn from the past; all the previous experiences. Let them guide you, to lead a life with all new dimensions; irrespective of the past. Let your loss cause you gain; by becoming a guiding force rather than a crying force! Let it strengthen you. Let the darkness be followed by a bright dawn illuminating your path.

Friends, this is the only way out. Else, weeping is only going to steal your peace of mind during the times of rest & all your zeal during the times of work!

This was my take on 'loss'. If it helps you in any way, even minutely, then my writing the article will succeed. You may give your views and reviews in the comments below.

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Love yourself

Beautiful is, enjoying your own company. And with your own , I mean, the 'real you'! It's a pleasure to spend time with ourselves.
Lest of any expectations,lest of disappointments, lest of worries.
Go, have a walk in the park, or the street. The nature with all its magnificence is awaiting to embrace you in its most enchanting manner.
Stop looking for happiness in people. Be your own source of joy. 'Cause not everybody around cares. Where source of worries ceases, there lies extreme elation. Be your own partner. Love your own self. Ultimately, you'll end up loving the world. It's anguishes will fade. Feel gratitude for all that you owe, you'll end up living with peace and solace.
This is one simple 3-liner formula: Be you. Expect null. Live full. And guess what, you'll find yourself in ultimate serenity; bereft of any anxiousness. You'll find yourself smiling from within more often.

What else does one want, in this era of anxiety, depression, competition and discontent!

P.S.: Your views about my views are welcomed. ;)

My idea of life

BLOG #5

If I put a very simple question in front of you; What do you want from life, then what would you answer?

Give yourself a little time. Have a meeting with self, a discussion in serenity with your mind. What answer do you get? And if your answer is one of those clichéd ones such as money, power, wealth, post etcetera, then sir/madam, let me reveal out to you, that YOU are conceiveing a big illusion! All you are doing is fooling around your own self. 'Cause the aforementioned are ephemeral or temporary. Life is a transient entity. You can not define it's girths or circumference! You can not bind it into some parameters. You can never limit it into some terms and objects. It is a flow. You can only flow with it, albeit having the helm of your direction and pace in your hands. So aspire for big, with a greater discernment; viewing with different perceptions.


Now think again; with this new aspect, with this new dimension which itself is dimensionless! Know the answer as to how you are shaping your life and whether you acquiesce to it this way.


This time, I hope you have a slightly different answer. With a new perspective. If no, then begin finding one, and if yes, then begin working for one. Find out the answers that lie beneath. And live with those answers. Atleast you'll have this very basic thing clear to you, as to 'What are you?' and 'Why are you?'. Else, you'll keep tracing the curve of life aimlessly along the locus shown by others, achieving goals fitted in you by others which will only bag you with apparent happiness and apparent satisfaction. Living in mirages! 


If you've watched the movie, YEH JAWANI HAI DEEWANI, when the heroine asks the same 'WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM LIFE' from hero, he replies 'speed'. All he want is to keep moving. Now, this is an aim.


If you'd ask me my WHY, I would reply 'contentment'. A constant attitude in life: complaintless; accepting all the scenarios that life presents me with courage to deal them. Some people might will to serve others in life, others might will to live life to the fullest. Some might want happiness, but then again, what is your idea of happiness? It's perceived differently by different people. So, I hope you've got the gist what I'm trying to convey. Think big, conceive big.


So what's your 'WHY'? Give it a thought. 

SPIRAL LIFE!

BLOG #4

Life; it's concept amazes me more than anything else's. It seems alike a relay exam.

Face situations, deal with them, pass through the outcomes, learn from the mistakes & 'go throughs', and then again, you face a new set of circumstances, you deal with them applying previously gained lessons, move forward to enter another world of situations. In short, life is all about learning from the experiences and applying them to the coming ones.

So basically, we are tracing a SPIRAL. That is how it's lived. This is the basic funda of living. 'LEARN AND MOVE ON.' But more often, we the naive players are incapable to absorb the hidden lessons this universe teaches us. We end up tracing a CIRCLE! This is where we get lagged behind. Rather than learning from the hurdles, we get stuck into them and keep regretting to why a certain thing happened that way. We wail around, & keep cursing our fate, our previous decisions which eventually led us to fall into the current situation.

As a matter of fact, it is absolutely impossible to undo the done in reality, unlike those in the electronic logic devices. So to repent upon is surely no way out. Remorse will only make you feel more depressed, defeated. So instead, stud the points where you went wrong, in your brain, to not repeat them ever.

Remember, the cosmo we live in, is in a constant flow. The time, the things, the objects are changing, moving, flowing! Rather than resisting, we too must flow, but wisely. Resisting will only make you feel the troubles more.

Don't let an obstacle become a hindering stone, make it instead, the stepping stone to your goal. GROW AS YOU MOVE.

ACTION POINTS (MOOL MANTRAS) :-
-> Analyse, 
-> Observe, 
-> Imply, and 
-> Apply 

Move, learn, move, learn, move. And that is how it is. When wise action replaces remorse, smile replaces hopelessness! This is the art. Art of living.

Do we need someone to complete us?

BLOG #3

Do we really need somebody, to give us our identity? To complete the meaning of our life? To validate our existence?

We have number of friends, family members, childern, our beloved, acquaintances. All these are parts of our life. But we do not realise, how gradually they transmute from 'part' to 'full'! That is, they instead, become our lives! The reason for our existence.
We get dependent on them.Being with them,gives us pleasure, while their absence disheartens us! Similar is true with those we dislike.

So the basic question which emerges is; why do we prioritise people? Why do we give them the very power to affect us in any manner? Why are we crippled without them?

It is noteworhty that,
"KOI APNA NHI, KOI PARAYA NAHIN.
HUM SAB TO VIDHI KE IS NAATYA ME,
NIBHA RAHEIN HAIN KIRDAAR APNE APNE."
(NONE IS OURS, NONE IS AN OUTSIDER,
WE, IN THIS DRAMA OF LIFE,
ARE PLAYING OUR OWN UNIQUE CHARACTERS.)

If we realise these very basic lines into our lives, our lives would be changed. A renewed one. The joy, the anguish, the jealousy, the excitement, the fear, the love,,,,,these all are not brought about by a third person. The cause is but, 'YOU' ! All these feelings are our creations, our thoughts, our illusions.

So, the conclusion what we get is, the bunch of keys to one's life's various phases is in his own hands. We are constantly moving in the path of life. Where we need to act upon is, not render them to those who are passer-by.

Philosopher Sir Henley wrote, "I am the Master of my Fate, I am the Captain of my Soul." Thus, it's we, who are the rulers. We owe the helm of our life's ways.

Gradually, bring into life, this principle. And you'll see how simple everything gets. All mysteries inside your head get deciphered. The nights you spend awaking, mulling over the various 'WHY's of life' reduce their frequency. What you are gifted with then, is peace; which I guess, has become just a theory nowadays, only found in dictionaries & books, not in real! 

Bag of complaints!

BLOG#2

Complaint, is all we have ever. From things,from people, from circumstances. We always crave if we could alter them. We always blame them.
Instead of moulding ourselves according to the situation, we find faults in what is going on.We want things to be, according to our comforts, desires and suitability. And we curse them if it is not so, and in the process, we acquire negative attitude and end up diminishing our efficiency and passion in the field, doing things coercively & in a dull manner.
What the most interesting part is, we never realise this. We consider ourselves as supreme. We never try to understand as to why a particular thing is being shaped that way,rather we apply our own statistics and logics for the thing to take shape the desired way.
For an instance, if I've semester exams in the mid of blazing May, after a month of preparation leaves, I would curse the university for conducting them in such roasting weather,amid loo, giving externals around 12:00 in the noon, writing exam during the hot day time,and what not! So, I'd think that they should have had preponed or the timings should have had to be around early morning etc. I'll form my own set of views, and reckon how things would be if they were that way. What happens ultimately is, half of my productive time gets wasted in cursing & disappointment .I end up studying lesser!
This is exactly the point, the matter we must throw light upon. Why do we want things to happen in our way? Why do we not just accept them as they are, trying to understand the perception of the other.
This very philosophy does not just imply on situations, but also thoughts. We impose our thoughts on people.
Why are we such sturdy?Why are we not adaptable to changes? Why are our thoughts less flexible?We must give it a thought, certainly.  And change the way we take things. We need to tilt the angle how we conceive our perceptions to a little degree. And in no time,you'll see, how the normal, tedious everyday turn up to be cheerful. How events become exciting. Everything becomes honky dory. Do not resist, let yourself flow. A small advice, yet can change big! 

Our perceptions make us what we are!

BLOG#1

Every person is unique, unique in his own manner. The way we act under certain circumstances, how we deal with things build up our identity. It's not the money, the class or the ambience that forms us; it's rather the state of mind that any individual conceives.
What we face or go through is a consequence of how we take things. Our perceptions have the very power to create or vandalise. Well said by Sir Mahatma Gandhi, "A man is nothing but a product of his thoughts."
Poor or rich, educated or illiterate adolescent or aged; a person is defined by his thoughts. The mindset & not the previous mentioned factors determine the happiness or contentment of an individual. WE LIVE IN THE SAME COSMO, YET OUR EYE DIFFERENTIATES THE WORLD! So we must give this blame game a hault & follow the '90/10 PRINCIPLE: What is done to us is 10% of the circumstances and 90% of reactions'.
It's time we set up a leg to understand this very fundamental yet significant concept and look forward to be better us.