Growing up

Blog #12
Friends, we talk triumphantly about several stages of life. Childhood, adolescence, grown up lads and so on. But have we ever given a thought, what actually segregates the other? What exactly are the lines of distinction of these phases; the boundaries?
Every moment, we transform. With every breath, the metabolism in our body changes; and so do us. Our perceptions, our whims, our passions; they all develop with every new experience. So, to summarise, it would be apt to say that each moment is a creator of a modified us! This process can gain pace just as epiphany comes into play and we reflect our experiences and realise that all we go through has some purpose. Some farther purpose. Without having a little talk with yourself amidst your hectic day, you are, in real just running; oblivious of your purpose, of your spirit.

Why not we search it. Why not we seek ourselves! Give yourselves some time. Contemplate. You'll see that the advices you give to others, have actually begun to be implemented by you! You'll naturally feel an inch grown up from your previous mental height. Your horizons extended each day. Your breaths expanded each moment. Interesting it is that it accompanies with it a pinch of solace as your reward! Interesting it is, to grow up.

One more interesting thing about this is, there will be times when you'll feel " I've had enough. I have learnt to stand by even the most turbulent of storms in life. There can be nothing darker. I have been so strong. All that is to come, will now pass smoothly as I am a modified version of me." But, life always proves to be a winner. It is better prepared to knock you down each time you get arrogant about being strong and teaches you another lesson. Isn't it intriguing? You never stop growing. It is a phenomena till eternity.

Don't get older, get better!

Nonetheless easy as this may sound, it is the most arduous of tasks. "We grow up with age" is a myth. We rather grow with each learning. No doubt, with age you get more chances to learn. But at the end of the day, it is up to us. How much do we want to grab! Growing up is an art to be mastered at. Let us also accomplish it. Let us ascend each moment, to a higher level and keep on increasing the limits, extend the periphery of our reach.

Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional.     

Chili Davis

A Masquerade

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I recently went to a masquerade. Different types of masks on people visible in the gleamy coloured lights in abysmally dark party with loud bass music. Beneath the masks, hid the free souls that crave to be unmasked here in the sea of masks. Yes! That is the irony. In daily lives, though being unmasked, we wear masks. Not physical masks, but the invisible ones. Interesting is that, behind them, we've blocked ourselves to wander freely. The society that has set us boundaries for everything. The apparent lives that this social psychology has paved. The paths directed by the myths, the notions of society. The paths we choose blindly depending upon what seems to be right, with deaf ears to what our inner whims cry. We have been living the lives given to us by the people around and their mindsets. Have we ever tried listening to the sleek voices which have been left unacknowledged? Maybe that is why, we require masks in such parties to unmask these souls for a while and just sway in absolute forgetfulness carefree of the worries. A temporary escape from this mundane world.

Why not we choose a life, that requires no escapade. Let the innocent voices guide us, to glory. Be it off the track, your ways; just bring them to life. No doubt money, power, fame and other such materialistic things matter in life and cast a shadow upon the lives we choose. But just for a second, think, what really matters at the end of the day? It is the happiness, the satisfaction you feel. With time, we have learnt to teach our hearts, the new dimensions of happiness. We've very well taught ourselves to like our paths. We've learnt to compromise resulting in the desire to elope.

So throw away the masks. Don't love what you choose, choose what you love. YOLO!

I'll conclude with a poem written by my brother while in high school, based on mask and importance of humbleness in life:

"Bear your face, 
Don't be masked
Say what you has 
Otherwise will be laughed. 

If you're asked, 
You are what 
Don't reveal I'm at top 
Say there are steps to walk. "
-SIDDHARTH JAIN

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Highs and lows

BLOG #10

Life is an interesting game. Play with all your might.

We often feel low and high. Some refer to it as mood swings, some as craziness. That's absolutely normal for a human being. But, noticeable is that the frequency of our lows is very very higher than the highs. Moreover, this gap is being widened more and more in us. Nevertheless, all seems to be in it's right place, we experience a wave of blankness. The controversy that develops here is how the hell does this happen and where does this come from. There can be several reasons. The answer lies within.

=> I closed my eyes and found that it is the lack of satisfaction that gives birth to such state of lull. We have kept our heart on lease and instead use a hell lot of brain in all that we do, so the gleam of gratification is absent. I don't ask you to alter this situation and keep aside your brain. Rather smartness would be to treat the heart as coach, but ultimately let brain be the player.

=> At times, you get so dominated by the circumstances around that lead you to your darker side. My take on this would be why letting yourself feel the harsh tides. This will only increase your resistivity towards tough situations and will make you more and more immune to such situations later.

=> Now how about being disappointed from a near and dear one. First of all, delete these crap words from your dictionary such as bff (best friends forever), close one, foe etcetera. A person is just a person, what he actually is! Your perception of him/her creates contours. You have an image of the person, and have created standards for their do's and don'ts. You expect a behaviour from their image in your mind and then you want it to be exactly that way. When these behaviours match, you feel love and whenever these contradict, your get annoyed and sad. The basic funda is omitting these static images, the chunk of illusions out of your head and replacing it with dynamic acceptance of their responses to different situations.  Instead of living in those illusions and getting disheartened each time a piece of it tumbles down, if you'll just absorb the truth as it is, about anyone, things will be at peace. So will be your heart. Accept any good from a person as a gift and discard everything else along garbage. Though I knew this technique long before , I could only learn to implement it over time. Easier said than done. But, you'll definitely feel the change if you try this with wholesome efforts.

Coming to the highs, when you feel low less often, you'll automatically feel heavenly. Do whatever elates you. Be with whoever brings out the best in you. Ding dong. All your worries are lost and turned into gaiety.

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Cell phone in every hand.

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Cell phones.
Yes! 'Cells' these are; in which we have been trapped. In this era of modernity, we find ourselves locked in these self created cages. Isolated entirely from the world in real; the world in existence.
I'm not against the use of any electronic device. I appreciate their phenomenal capabilities downright; I myself is pursuing engineering in electronics and communication! These devices have blessed us by letting us do almost anything that hits our mind, within few milliseconds. It's a wonder. A revolutionary time. The terms are getting more and more dynamic. With terms, my gesture is of human behaviour, social interactions, relations and their parameters.
The utmost irony lies in the term 'social media'. This word forces me to rethink what being social is! Is it to disconnect socially and connect with nothing but objects! Hurray! We are in a process of generating an entire species of robots. These robots interfacing with electronic devices in the most skillful of ways.
Nevertheless, the so called internet, phones, tablets have widely alleviated myriads of our problems; but have paved way for far more and severe issues. This powerful technology has crippled us and have typically bruised our identities. The more we connect virtually, the more we disconnect in real. Our lives are being shaped into cages, notwithstanding our total oblivion. We aren't unable to speak even a few lines while confronting a person with whom we'd text and chat for hours! The situation is so worse that if I wanna talk to anyone who is sitting beside me, it's highly probable that he is engulfed in talking to someone else virtually, and I get a cold or even no response. If I need to convey anything to him/her, I'd get faster response on a chatting app! You can get the proof anywhere anytime. While crossing roads, while being in a bus, while being in a group; you can easily find 4 out of every 5 persons' head tilted down and eyes glued to some illuminant screen. Something is seriously wrong, isn't it? Humanity is in the verge of extinction and robots are soon to replace them.
I agree the technology has done wonders and will keep doing so. All that is to be done is, we must not hand over the control from us to these pieces of objects. Efficient use is what is the need of the hour. Else our hearts will get narrower, minds broader, and bodies will just be bodies. Awaken. Listen to your soul. It wants to dance in the rain, talk endlessly, run in the ground, sing in the shower or as simple as talking to the person beside you. Do all that you love, love all that you do. Revive your lost interests. After all, plugging earphones is the only hobby left with 90% of the persons.

In the moments of rest, of silences; in which your first impulse is checking your cell phones; mull rather on your wishes. Just begin doing it. Let the cell phone be your need, not your desire. I might sound big, being small, but try this for "21 days" (the magic number which develops any new habit in any person). You'll feel utterly refreshed and literally free out of the bonds of these prisons and bring life into your lives.

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Destiny: The Game Changer

BLOG #8

Life has a wonderful way of surprising us. Each time we feel that things are all in place, something drastic happens! A sudden change! A totally unexpected one. Might it be for the good, or bad; but would definitely affect you in the time that follows.

While you feel gloomy about something, there strikes some zeal engulfed incidences from nowhere and make you feel elated. Just the similar way, while everything seems to be absolutely fine and you have plans set for things to show up, life knocks you down and drives you upon the wall just to prove you absolutely wrong. The word 'destiny' or rather 'an invisible captain of the anchor of the ship of our lives' always leaves me dazed. A fraction of humans also address it as 'God'! This latent power keeps a watch on your way of things, of people, and evolves a way absolutely different and mocks at you! It is the most cunning power ever. The smartest and the wickedest at the same time!

So now, I've almost stopped anticipating things. 'Cause there are always huge contradictions! I better, just pursue the tasks and acts of living, sit on my sofa of brain as a spectator, let destiny play it's tricks and watch the resulting outcomes!
The clutch is not under your hands. Accept it. You can although guide the captain, but ultimately, the control is never yours!
Fascinating it is. You must also try it sometime. You'll feel less burdened for you'll have no worries about the results. But certainly the path to follow is your part of the game. And more or less, it's closely linked with the output. So play it well my friend; and be prepared, for the surprise packets that destiny has in store for you.

It will turn out eventually, that you are living absolutely worry less!
And I guess, this proves the relevance of this perception.

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Dealing with losses

BLOG #7

Loss: emotional, physical, economical, biological,,,,, the list is long. As many gains, as many losses. It is a natural phenomenon, that what is gained has to be lost, now or later. Nothing stays forever. Everything and everyone is transient.

But the question that arises is, while travelling our journeys, we stick to certain things, certain people, certain places, certain habits. So how to move on, when these are gone? All we are left with, are the memories. And more or less, agonies as well!  'Cause realisation of any loss is the cause of pain. I was struck with this thought in the movie 'The Fault In Our Stars'; it had a dialogue: 'Pain demands to be felt'. Woh! These words are ocean in a pot!

Yet life goes on. We have to live with smile on our faces and peace in our hearts. But how? So here my friend, lies the art. Art of how to stay calm even in all the times of opposing circumstances. Our smile ought not be fake, but the peace and content, must gleam in our eyes. This can be accomplished only by acceptance. Acceptance of the truth, no regrets; since what is over is over. You cannot retrieve the lost. You'll no doubt remember the lost, but don't let it accompany with it, the pain. Rather remember things positively. And work forward to attain larger goals, farther aims. 'Cause what's gone is gone. Weeping about it will only help you with more loss. No one has ever achieved a thing by keep moaning about the gone. Instead, learn from the past; all the previous experiences. Let them guide you, to lead a life with all new dimensions; irrespective of the past. Let your loss cause you gain; by becoming a guiding force rather than a crying force! Let it strengthen you. Let the darkness be followed by a bright dawn illuminating your path.

Friends, this is the only way out. Else, weeping is only going to steal your peace of mind during the times of rest & all your zeal during the times of work!

This was my take on 'loss'. If it helps you in any way, even minutely, then my writing the article will succeed. You may give your views and reviews in the comments below.

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Love yourself

Beautiful is, enjoying your own company. And with your own , I mean, the 'real you'! It's a pleasure to spend time with ourselves.
Lest of any expectations,lest of disappointments, lest of worries.
Go, have a walk in the park, or the street. The nature with all its magnificence is awaiting to embrace you in its most enchanting manner.
Stop looking for happiness in people. Be your own source of joy. 'Cause not everybody around cares. Where source of worries ceases, there lies extreme elation. Be your own partner. Love your own self. Ultimately, you'll end up loving the world. It's anguishes will fade. Feel gratitude for all that you owe, you'll end up living with peace and solace.
This is one simple 3-liner formula: Be you. Expect null. Live full. And guess what, you'll find yourself in ultimate serenity; bereft of any anxiousness. You'll find yourself smiling from within more often.

What else does one want, in this era of anxiety, depression, competition and discontent!

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My idea of life

BLOG #5

If I put a very simple question in front of you; What do you want from life, then what would you answer?

Give yourself a little time. Have a meeting with self, a discussion in serenity with your mind. What answer do you get? And if your answer is one of those clichéd ones such as money, power, wealth, post etcetera, then sir/madam, let me reveal out to you, that YOU are conceiveing a big illusion! All you are doing is fooling around your own self. 'Cause the aforementioned are ephemeral or temporary. Life is a transient entity. You can not define it's girths or circumference! You can not bind it into some parameters. You can never limit it into some terms and objects. It is a flow. You can only flow with it, albeit having the helm of your direction and pace in your hands. So aspire for big, with a greater discernment; viewing with different perceptions.


Now think again; with this new aspect, with this new dimension which itself is dimensionless! Know the answer as to how you are shaping your life and whether you acquiesce to it this way.


This time, I hope you have a slightly different answer. With a new perspective. If no, then begin finding one, and if yes, then begin working for one. Find out the answers that lie beneath. And live with those answers. Atleast you'll have this very basic thing clear to you, as to 'What are you?' and 'Why are you?'. Else, you'll keep tracing the curve of life aimlessly along the locus shown by others, achieving goals fitted in you by others which will only bag you with apparent happiness and apparent satisfaction. Living in mirages! 


If you've watched the movie, YEH JAWANI HAI DEEWANI, when the heroine asks the same 'WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM LIFE' from hero, he replies 'speed'. All he want is to keep moving. Now, this is an aim.


If you'd ask me my WHY, I would reply 'contentment'. A constant attitude in life: complaintless; accepting all the scenarios that life presents me with courage to deal them. Some people might will to serve others in life, others might will to live life to the fullest. Some might want happiness, but then again, what is your idea of happiness? It's perceived differently by different people. So, I hope you've got the gist what I'm trying to convey. Think big, conceive big.


So what's your 'WHY'? Give it a thought. 

SPIRAL LIFE!

BLOG #4

Life; it's concept amazes me more than anything else's. It seems alike a relay exam.

Face situations, deal with them, pass through the outcomes, learn from the mistakes & 'go throughs', and then again, you face a new set of circumstances, you deal with them applying previously gained lessons, move forward to enter another world of situations. In short, life is all about learning from the experiences and applying them to the coming ones.

So basically, we are tracing a SPIRAL. That is how it's lived. This is the basic funda of living. 'LEARN AND MOVE ON.' But more often, we the naive players are incapable to absorb the hidden lessons this universe teaches us. We end up tracing a CIRCLE! This is where we get lagged behind. Rather than learning from the hurdles, we get stuck into them and keep regretting to why a certain thing happened that way. We wail around, & keep cursing our fate, our previous decisions which eventually led us to fall into the current situation.

As a matter of fact, it is absolutely impossible to undo the done in reality, unlike those in the electronic logic devices. So to repent upon is surely no way out. Remorse will only make you feel more depressed, defeated. So instead, stud the points where you went wrong, in your brain, to not repeat them ever.

Remember, the cosmo we live in, is in a constant flow. The time, the things, the objects are changing, moving, flowing! Rather than resisting, we too must flow, but wisely. Resisting will only make you feel the troubles more.

Don't let an obstacle become a hindering stone, make it instead, the stepping stone to your goal. GROW AS YOU MOVE.

ACTION POINTS (MOOL MANTRAS) :-
-> Analyse, 
-> Observe, 
-> Imply, and 
-> Apply 

Move, learn, move, learn, move. And that is how it is. When wise action replaces remorse, smile replaces hopelessness! This is the art. Art of living.

Do we need someone to complete us?

BLOG #3

Do we really need somebody, to give us our identity? To complete the meaning of our life? To validate our existence?

We have number of friends, family members, childern, our beloved, acquaintances. All these are parts of our life. But we do not realise, how gradually they transmute from 'part' to 'full'! That is, they instead, become our lives! The reason for our existence.
We get dependent on them.Being with them,gives us pleasure, while their absence disheartens us! Similar is true with those we dislike.

So the basic question which emerges is; why do we prioritise people? Why do we give them the very power to affect us in any manner? Why are we crippled without them?

It is noteworhty that,
"KOI APNA NHI, KOI PARAYA NAHIN.
HUM SAB TO VIDHI KE IS NAATYA ME,
NIBHA RAHEIN HAIN KIRDAAR APNE APNE."
(NONE IS OURS, NONE IS AN OUTSIDER,
WE, IN THIS DRAMA OF LIFE,
ARE PLAYING OUR OWN UNIQUE CHARACTERS.)

If we realise these very basic lines into our lives, our lives would be changed. A renewed one. The joy, the anguish, the jealousy, the excitement, the fear, the love,,,,,these all are not brought about by a third person. The cause is but, 'YOU' ! All these feelings are our creations, our thoughts, our illusions.

So, the conclusion what we get is, the bunch of keys to one's life's various phases is in his own hands. We are constantly moving in the path of life. Where we need to act upon is, not render them to those who are passer-by.

Philosopher Sir Henley wrote, "I am the Master of my Fate, I am the Captain of my Soul." Thus, it's we, who are the rulers. We owe the helm of our life's ways.

Gradually, bring into life, this principle. And you'll see how simple everything gets. All mysteries inside your head get deciphered. The nights you spend awaking, mulling over the various 'WHY's of life' reduce their frequency. What you are gifted with then, is peace; which I guess, has become just a theory nowadays, only found in dictionaries & books, not in real!